Ugly? Stupid? Broke? Too Old? ADHD? Lazy? Crazy? Too (Fill in with one or more familiar miserable thoughts about yourself).
We believe that we’re inadequate, missing SOMETHING…but what? We buy in to what our family, friends, colleagues, classmates or the media would like us to think. “They’re right,” we mope. ” I’m just not good enough. We think,
if only I could (fill in the blank) or,
if it weren’t for my (fill in the blank)
then I (= my life) would be okay! Really?
This photo has it right. We are ALL good enough. That’s the starting place for creativity, transformation and re-invention in our daily life which, by nature has it’s ups and downs, challenges and joys. Sometimes (much of the time) life CAN be okay. It starts with each of us. We ARE enough. Each of us, AS WE ARE, is the starting point.
Therapy isn’t about finding the missing links, broken pieces, different parents, better children, or winning personality lottery numbers. It starts with knowing how great we each, truly, are. The clues are right in front of and inside us. A good therapist helps us re-consider where and who we are today without the lens of our own negative judgements. A good coach steers a client away from the self doubt, guilt, or indecision he brings. Loving our inadequacies is a useless hobby.
It’s baseball season. So, batter up on your own behalf. Yelling foul doesn’t get you on first.