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Channel Surfing, Red Ferraris, And A Tea Party

Posted on June 7, 2013 Written by Allison Spitzer Leave a Comment

What have they got to do with you?  The metaphor I use to describe the proud ownership of an ADD/ADHD brain takes the remote in hand. It’s as though our mind is channel surfing when we’d just rather be following one show. We push fast forward before we’ve had a chance to get the story. And we can’t help it. Recently, I heard another great metaphor–it’s as though our mind is a Ferrari…a great, loaded and powerful machine , but one that’s sold with only bicycle brakes. Yikes! All that speed and potential but, without the right controls? Disaster or an upgrade?

Upon receiving a new diagnosis of ADD, we rush to znom8j-e1370636015172navigate the the maze of options, providers and literature. While we naturally worry about the pitfalls, let’s also remember that the ADD brain is a gift! Supercharged! Pow! Able to see things holistically! A natural ability to synthesize information easily!  A talent for hyper focusing when it may truly be necessary!

There are clearly some challenges that accompany this particular brain wiring–BUT, there is also a powerful race car ready to roll. With the right brakes, imagine what it will do.

Keep the gifts in mind.

This recent article elaborates on it.

http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/9338.html

And the Tea Party? Amidst the therapeutic coaching, expressive arts activities and more, tomorrows’s opening session of the 4 part “Tween Time” (a social skills group for girls ages 10-12) series will include boy talk and a sterling silver tea party. There are only two spaces still open, so call ASAP to grab one.

tea set

 

 

Filed Under: ADD/ADHD, Adolescent Issues, Attention Deficit Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Lack of Confidence, Relationship Problems, Self Esteem, Teen Troubles, Therapeutic Coaching

Therapy, Not a Scavenger Hunt

Posted on April 30, 2013 Written by Allison Spitzer Leave a Comment

Ugly?  Stupid?  Broke?  Too Old?  ADHD?  Lazy?  Crazy?  Too (Fill in with one or more  familiar miserable thoughts about yourself).

We  believe that we’re  inadequate, missing SOMETHING…but what?  We buy in to what our family, friends, colleagues, classmates or the media would like us to think. “They’re right,” we mope. ” I’m just not good enough. We think,stopsign

“If only I were  (fill in the blank) or,

         if only I could (fill in the blank) or,

                   if it weren’t for my (fill in the blank)

                                 then I (= my life) would be okay!  Really?                                                     

This photo has it right. We are ALL good enough. That’s the starting place for creativity, transformation and re-invention in our daily life which, by nature has it’s ups and downs, challenges and joys. Sometimes (much of the time) life CAN be okay. It starts with each of us. We ARE enough. Each of us, AS WE ARE,  is the starting point.

Therapy isn’t about finding the missing links, broken pieces, different parents, better children, or winning personality lottery numbers. It starts with knowing how great we each, truly, are. The clues are right in front of and inside us. A good therapist helps us re-consider where and who we are today without the lens of our own negative judgements. A good coach steers a client away from the self doubt, guilt, or indecision he brings. Loving our inadequacies is a useless hobby.

It’s baseball season. So, batter up on your own behalf. Yelling foul doesn’t get you on first.

 

 

Filed Under: Depression, Failure, Frustration, Hopelessness, Low Self Esteem, Poor Self Image, Self Esteem, Teen Anxiety, Therapeutic Coaching, Therapy, Troubled Teens, Underachievement

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